As children, most of us have heard the saying, “do as I say, not as I do”. More than likely, this was said when someone who you were supposed to be watching as an example did something that went against what they were trying to teach you. We’ve also heard people say, “actions speak louder than words”. Obviously both of these phrases are pretty self-explanatory, but how do they relate to leadership???
The other night I must have eaten too much pizza, because I had a strange, yet memorable dream. In the dream, I was watching a group of people who I used to work with. My role with them at the time was as a participant. The leader of the group was carrying a large piece of posterboard, and as he spoke to all of the members of the group, he announced that a project was at hand that required extra effort by all members. There would need to be extra meetings, learning and understanding new concepts, and then an intense commitment of time in order to pull off this successful project. He stated that he was going to pass around the posterboard and that the members could all jot down their opinions and their availability for this massive feat.
I wrote on the posterboard, as did the rest of the members of the group. My comment was not flattering. I wrote, “I refuse to put forth any extra effort into this project because we have no productivity in our normal meetings. If we were to accomplish what we should accomplish in our standard meetings, we wouldn’t need to have additional commitment. My time is more valuable than this.”
A short period of time passed and I saw the leader of our group sitting under a table staring that the posterboard. I asked him what was wrong. He gave me the posterboard and showed me all of the comments that were written, several of which were similar in tone to mine. He seemed very distraught by what he was reading. He was a good man, but was a careless leader. He had several competent, willing members in the group, but they were tired of being underutilized and unchallenged. He had been consistently late or absent to several meetings, did not conduct them in an organized fashion, and although he may have been physically present for his group, most times everyone could tell that he was not mentally there. Obviously this had a tremendous negative impact on the group as a whole.
My comment to him was this: “The actions of a team reflect the attitude of its leader”. And then I woke up…
It’s funny, because as much as this was a dream for me, I’ve seen this in reality a million times. I’ve witnessed leaders that have ineffective teams because they make assumptions based on the following:
1.) They’re the leader and everyone needs to realize that they have other obligations that the casual members do not have. This makes them exempt from 100% participation, and everyone else just needs to understand that they are “busy” with all of their other responsibilities.
Remember that members of a team or group have their own individual responsibilities as well. Positionally, they value their other responsibilities the same way that the leader values his/her additional responsibilities. There is no rank and order when it comes to things that occupy people’s time. Who is to say that one person’s priorities are more or less important than someone else’s? In fact, a good way to paralyze the effectiveness of a team is to devalue someone else’s priorities by overvaluing the importance of your own.
2.) They surround themselves with skilled and/or gifted people and allow those people to carry the burden of leading the team in their absence. The talented people can definitely assist, but are not the designated leader and therefore cause confusion among the other team members.
A baseball team has a head coach, a first base coach, a third base coach, a pitching coach, and several other talented people who assist with the general direction. Imagine if the head coach believed that he had so much talent in his other coaches that he could sit back and watch the game, OR that he could skip the game altogether and take his wife out for dinner… Can you imagine the confusion that would occur when players had to take direction from all of the other coaches without some supervisory level of coordination? It is the same way with other leaders. Someone must be present at the helm to steer the ship. Leadership is three parts participatory and one part delegatory.
3.) They forget the amount of effort that is needed to keep the momentum of the team consistent. Leaders who have accomplished much over longer periods of time can get tired or bored if they’re not continuously challenging themselves to achieve better or new results. When leaders stop striving to achieve, the team stops as well.
This is probably one of the most challenging things for a leader to recognize and/or do something about. Leaders must consistently find sources of new ideas and motivation. That’s why they’re the leader! Leaders who get “tapped out” are dangerous. I’ve heard several leaders say, “I’m tired of doing the same old thing and getting the same old results. I wish someone else would see what I’m doing, take the reigns and put some effort into this.” Well, sorry to say buddy, but that’s YOUR job. You have to find things that stir your fire and your passion, even when you don’t feel like it. Look at your team; they’re waiting on you to give them some direction and guidance, and finally to provide the example to follow. That’s how momentum occurs. You’ve got to keep pressing to move forward.
In 1 Chronicles 29, David requested participation from the people to deliver what was needed for Solomon to build the temple. In this project, under the leadership of the families and the tribes, the people gave freely. Verse 9 says: “The people rejoiced at the willing response of their leaders, for they had given freely and wholeheartedly to the LORD. David the king also rejoiced greatly.” In order to generate great results, leaders have to participate. They can’t command participation without participation themselves. They can’t assume that others with gifts and talents will accomplish without proper oversight, and they can’t get bored or tired of being responsible for the outcomes of the team.
The actions of the team reflect the attitude of the leader… don’t be a lazy one!